"no one can love you until you love yourself"
that is complete bullshit
don’t let anyone tell you that you don’t deserve love from other people because you struggle with loving yourself
this everyone read this right now
the brilliant thing about being a woman is that I’m punished for both trusting and distrusting men!
I should magically know which man is going to harm me by having a brief conversation with him. if I trust Bad Men, then, well. I should’ve known.
if I don’t trust Nice Men though, I’m an utter bitch who deserves violence. don’t I know most men are good people?
I’m sayin doe….
Respecting body image: The problematic nature of America’s Next Top Model Cycle 18’s androgyne Azmarie Livingston’s elimination
First off, I don’t usually watch America’s Next Top Model (this is me desperately trying to salvage some dignity from this situation, but hear me out!), but I did watch an episode of cycle 18 and was entranced by an androgynous model called Azmarie. Episode after episode she performed well and she seemed to be on track to win the competition, but she was eliminated as early as episode 6, which was incredibly surprising to me.
Why? Because of her self-respect. In the episode, the models were forced to wear a body modifier to facilitate Tyra’s ego. That sounds harsh (and weird) out of context, but basically Tyra declared that to be a ‘true’ model a woman had to be able to stick out her butt and pose which, whilst perhaps valid, was obviously a transparent attempt to create the new buzzword ‘Booty Tooch’ in the dictionary of modelling as she had with ‘Smize’. And so, she forced all the competitors to wear butt pads and do an eponymous dance called ‘Stop Drop and Tooch.’ Ah, modelling.
With Azmarie as an androgynous, bi-sexual woman, it’s so clear to me why she felt uncomfortable doing it. Even in today’s society gender is still regarded as binary - everyone has to fit in the category of being either ‘male’ or ‘female’ - and for someone who as part of her identity needed to break these barriers and faced the challenges of finding self-respect in a world that has so little room for the different, putting on the butt modifiers and doing the dance would only compromise her respect for herself and people’s respect for her image, an image so hard-won in having to transcend gender stereotypes.
Yet, Tyra eliminated her saying that Azmarie showed disrespect to a potential client, by refusing to put on the body modifiers that she’d repeatedly told Tyra she was uncomfortable wearing.
What kind of message does Tyra, a woman who has so many followers in social media, on a show that has millions of viewers, send out about the modelling world here? Not a good one. She sends out the message that it models should compromise their own respect, that models should let client force them to do things they don’t feel comfortable doing.
She sends out the same message Terry Richardson sends out, the same message Coco Rocha has been trying to fight and the same message that is the problem with the entire modelling industry in the exploitation of girls.
People still take ANTM seriously - at least 3 million+ do. But this is one of countless reasons to begin reconsidering that.
During a robbery, the bank robber shouted to everyone in the bank: “Don’t move. The money belongs to the State. Your life belongs to you.”
Everyone in the bank laid down quietly. This is called “Mind Changing Concept” Changing the conventional way of thinking.
When a lady lay on the table provocatively, the robber shouted at her: “Please be civilized! This is a robbery and not a rape!”
This is called “Being Professional” Focus only on what you are trained to do!
When the bank robbers returned home, the younger robber (MBA-trained) told the older robber (who has only completed Year 6 in primary school): “Big brother, let’s count how much we got.”
The older robber rebutted and said: “You are very stupid. There is so much money it will take us a long time to count. Tonight, the TV news will tell us how much we robbed from the bank!”
This is called “Experience.” Nowadays, experience is more important than paper qualifications!
After the robbers had left, the bank manager told the bank supervisor to call the police quickly. But the supervisor said to him: “Wait! Let us take out $10 million from the bank for ourselves and add it to the $70 million that we have previously embezzled from the bank”.
This is called “Swim with the tide.” Converting an unfavorable situation to your advantage!
The supervisor says: “It will be good if there is a robbery every month.”
This is called “Killing Boredom.” Personal Happiness is more important than your job.
The next day, the TV news reported that $100 million was taken from the bank. The robbers counted and counted and counted, but they could only count $20 million. The robbers were very angry and complained: “We risked our lives and only took $20 million. The bank manager took $80 million with a snap of his fingers. It looks like it is better to be educated than to be a thief!”
This is called “Knowledge is worth as much as gold!”
The bank manager was smiling and happy because his losses in the share market are now covered by this robbery.
This is called “Seizing the opportunity.” Daring to take risks!
So who are the real robbers here?
Wow… If you don’t read this, you’re wilding.
Still love this every time it comes around.